Counselling has made such a difference. When I started my sessions, I was tearful, desperate, felt guilty, overwhelmed and questioning why everyone was attacking me. We looked at different ways of coping with issues that arise on a daily basis. 1) One in particular that I found very useful was to remove myself from the situation and look in as if an observer. Stop the feeling of being under attack and to attempt to see the situation from another’s perspective. To stop and have rational thinking! 2) Another was to make lists and to cross off as jobs were completed. This helps to prevent the feeling of feeling overwhelmed. 3) Making time for me. I enjoy drawing and was encouraged to pick up my pencil and was driven by wanting to give my counsellor a gift for all of her help. It’s good to do things for yourself and things you enjoy as it makes you feel good. This in turn then means that you’re ready to deal with everything else in your life. 4) Having someone just to talk things through. Sometimes it’s just talking to someone and hearing what you’re saying to them to stop and realise that you’re escalating a situation with overthinking. 5) We looked at boundaries and that it’s ok to make someone realise that they are overstepping the mark.
I feel that I use the first coping strategy a lot and this is helping me with everyday life. Some days are more difficult than others but I stop overthinking and step out of the situation.